Archive for January, 2010

how much does a baby cost?

 

I recently found out I was pregnant and am planning (more like fighting.. my parents are working hard to change my mind) to keep the baby. I’m only nineteen but have the support of my boyfriend as well. I’m trying to work out how we will afford everything once the baby is born. I think I have found insurance that will cover most of our hospital costs and the birth but I was wondering if anyone could give me a number on just how much you spend every… month? week? even the first year.. Just how much does a baby cost?

I’d love stories/estimates/the things you had to buy after your baby was born… everything helps! :)

It’s averaged out that between food, furniture, clothing, and diapers the average parent spends a minimum of 9000 the first year of the childs life. That does not include Dr’s bills or toys. Needless to say if neither parent is working it’s next to impossible to raise a child. Without my families help we would not have been able to keep my son because we wouldn’t have been able to afford a place for him to sleep or clothes for him to wear. Babies are not cheap.

I’ll be honest

Disposable diapers per month for the first few months = A bit less than $40 a month

Cloth Diapers = From what I’ve heard, for a one time $300 start up cost thing, you can get tons of cloth diapers that will last quite a good while (possibly til baby is potty trained?)

Breastmilk = Free

Clothes = You could probably get some for less than $50. They may not be absolutely adorable but clothes none-the-less. They grow out of each size fast, so you should buy big to give yourself more time to get more.

Co-Sleeping = Also Free

After baby is a bit older you have to make or buy baby food. If you cook food correctly, then you can safely just share big people food with them when they are ready (and, of course, continue breastfeeding). If you buy baby food, fruits and veggies are about 50 cents a jar and meats are about $1 (at least here, where I live). By 8 months they tend to eat about 3 jars a day (or more).

You might want a few blankets = $10

Car seat = $75 … The Costco Scenera is a convertible carseat. Rear Facing from 5 to 35 lbs (I think) and Forward Facing from 20 to 40 lbs (also, not completely sure …). A convertible Carseat will last the baby longer than an infant “bucket” seat.

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The baby, themselves, can be quite inexpensive. What is expensive is rent, electricity, water, etc.

Then, there is babys insurance (if you don’t qualify for Medicaid or another form of government help). If you don’t have some kind of insurance, doctors appointments are even more expensive.

If you are determined, you can do it. But it is hard.

well depending on who you know you can get but with only needing to buy the necessities.personally many of my friends and family have recently had children and I was able to get most their stuff, free. On top of that I also have been getting help from 2 different organization that help mothers in need. we are also enrolled in WIC.
I managed to get the everything but a crib and stroller free and those I also got second hand, for cheap on craigslist.
Keira eat about 12 cans of formula a month, WIC pays for 10, so I only have to buy $24 worth a month at the moment. With out WIC each can is about $12 and would cost almost $150 a month.
we do need to but diapers, I get a box of pampers(about 80-90 diapers depending on size) a month a box goes for about $20 at walmart.

So basically if you can find other people who’ve had babies recently and get stuff second hand through them or craigslist it can be cheaper .

Raising a child is only as expensive as you make it. Most of the baby products that stores market are luxuries, not essentials. You can raise a baby with out a crib or diapers if you really need to (and I know people who have, not because they cant afford to, but because they enjoy raising their baby differently)

Breastfeeding is free. I only know these figures in British pounds, but I guess things cost about the same in the US if you do the conversion (which i dont know how to do :S) Formula feeding costs around £900 over the first 12 months of a babys life.

cloth diapers save around £1500 during babies first year. You can get set up for birth to potty training for around £200. I also use cloth baby wipes, which get chucked in the  washer with the nappies and save around £250 a year. I’m not sure if youv ever seen the modern ones, but cloth diapers are CUTE!

Prams etc can be bought second hand, or not at all. I prefer to use a sling which costs about the same as a cheap stroller and lasts birth to toddlerhood. Or you can make your own.

Everything bar cot mattress and carseat can be bought second hand. Look for things in the sales too.

All Tobys clothes are either hand-ons or bought in the sale. Up until he was 6months old, he cost me maybe a fiver a week to keep? Now, at 2 and a half, hes a bit more expensive because he needs food, but still, not as expensive as I thought.

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Brittany the teen mom

My name is Brittany and I have a con Named Nicholas. He is my life and I love him so much. I have a job and go to school so I’m away from him a lot. The daddy and I aren’t together and we hate each other. He rarely helps me with anything, hes going to take Nic next weekend overnight for the first time. He never buys dipears or anything. I just dont know what to do to make him understand how hard it is to do it all alone. And sense I’m away from Nic a lot already I feel bad when i want to go to the movies with friends so I hardly ever go out. I live with my mom and my son and I share a room. I feel like Nic desreves so much more and like I cant give him what he needs. I like a guy right now but I feel like I’m not suppose to like him. I just want to be a family but it’s so impossible with to get along with Nics dad. I’m just at the end of my rope and out of ideas, I need some advice.

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New. 19 w/ 6 month old baby

 

Hey! welcome to the board!

im karynne, 19 and my daughter abbygaile is 2, going on 3

First off, id like to say, i have a reaaaallly bad situation with the father also. He paid for milk and diapers when she was a baby but now that shes out of diapers and actually eats, he feels like theres nothing for  him to buy. and im not about to ask him, cause he needs to see it on his own, so i pay for everything. i know its tough.

Why is your son going for an overnight visit? what are the custody arragements?

and as of going out, why dont you invite your friends over once in a while? and that other guy.. you can like him for sure. i used to think like you untill i met jason.. and i felt bad at firs… after dating for 2 months he  met abby and hes just great with her

you have to remember that you need to take care of yourself first so you can care fr you child- that means be happy. : )

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New here I’m 15 and preggo any advice?

Hey every one I’m new here just wanted some support on being preggo and a teen, just some tips ,advice, or just some one to talk too! Not too many girls tht are preggo in my town are very nice so I just wanted to meet a nice preggo person that we could exchange stories!
Thanks alot girls!
Sierra:)

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18, underweight, pregnant & a smoker

Hi everyone. I’m really in need of advice. I’m 18, I’m 5′7” and 107 pounds. That leaves me with a BMI of 16.76. I fought very hard to to get to this weight from 160 pounds and now it seems impossible to put the weight back on. I don’t have an eating disorder or anything. I just quit consuming all the desserts, candy and soda everyday and joined swim team. These are things that no one should consume too much of anyway but this weight seems unnatural, despite my method of getting to it. Now that I’m 5 weeks pregnant, I’ve been trying to put on weight because I know this isn’t healthy for the baby. I’ve been eating right but nothing seems to work. It doesn’t help that I have been a major party girl lately. I never got into serious drugs but I was smoking a pack a day, drinking everyday and occasionally taking way too much medicine. I was doing this into the 2nd week of my pregnancy until I found out and quit cold turkey. I’m still having major cravings. I’m wondering what being underweight, a former smoker and user of alcohol and DXM will do to my baby. Have I already screwed it up and how do I fix it? I really need the advice here since I live in Utah and the Mormons here have the tendency to be judgmental and I can’t ask them. Also, the father seems reluctant to be involved. Any advice would be appreciated.

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New mom at 16 need help please

Hey everyone I’m jessica and I just had my baby 4 days ago and I need so advice on what to do I have no support from my family or his father and Im really scared so if anyone has any advice on what to do it would be greatly appriceated thanks a lot jessica

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17 and pregnant

 

My name is Jessica & I found out the day after christmas that i was pregnant. I am 17 years old & i’m only 5 weeks along. This is becoming the hardest thing i have ever had to do, and i know that its not going to get any easier.

I left my high school to do virtual school (all my schooling is online) and my days have gone from 8 hours of school, to 2 hours. so i have alot of time by myself at home & its driving me crazy.

I cant drive, i dont have a job anymore, and my boyfriend (and father of my child) doesnt have his own car so when his mom needs the car, she gets it.

What im looking for is a friend, and advice.
When my friends found out that i was pregnant, they stopped talking to me. So the only people i have to talk to are my boyfriend and my family, and my siblings are in school and my parents work. And as ive said before, im 17 so i really dont know what im doing or what im instore for. I would like it if someone around my age who has gone through it or is going through it could help me out and we can compare stories or something.

i hope to make some friends :)

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Debra Danielson, mother of MTV ‘Teen Mom’ Farrah Abraham, arrested after hitting daughter

She stars as a struggling single parent on “Teen Mom,” but Farrah Abraham has serious issues with her own mother.

The 18-year-old’s mom allegedly choked and hit Abraham Saturday in their Iowa home, according to the state’s Daily Nonpareil.

Debra Danielson, 54, was arrested on suspicion of domestic abuse/serious assault after the incident, according to police reports obtained by the Nonpareil, which also state that Abraham had “multiple cuts” on her lips.

The women reportedly fought over “childcare issues and other problems.”

They’re often seen arguing on MTV’s reality show, “Teen Mom,” where Abraham’s life as mom to baby daughter Sophia is documented along with those of three other young mothers.

Scenes center on shouting matches between them, in which Danielson urges her daughter to stay home with the baby more, instead of going out with her friends or on dates.

In one episode of the show’s predecessor, “16 & Pregnant,” Danielson was caught by MTV cameras smacking Abraham in the mouth during an argument in a car.

During Saturday’s scuffle, Danielson allegedly tossed an MTV shirt at her daughter, which landed near baby Sophia, who started to cry. This caused Abraham to go off on her mom, who then allegedly took her by the throat and hit her on the right side of her head and mouth.

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My Life as a Teenage Mom

 

At 15, most girls are thinking about clothes, boys, and parties. But Jamie got pregnant — and now she’s focused on raising her son.

It was Friday morning, first period, and I was in my science class, just like a typical kid in a typical high-school science room. I’m sure you can picture it — the little plants sprouting in Styrofoam cups, the usual charts and posters on the walls, the teacher asking us if we’d done our homework. Just a normal moment in the life of a teenager.

But then the loudspeaker on the wall squawked: Jamie Rush, report to the nursery!

It was another reminder that, no, I wasn’t a normal high-school kid. I was a teenage mom attending an alternative school with built-in day care. I excused myself from class and hurried to the nursery, where the attendant met me at the door. “You forgot to leave your son’s diapers!” she told me, scowling. I confessed that I had left them at home and asked if I could borrow a few from someone else. She said okay, but then she shook her head at me as if to say, “Careless kids!”

Such moments — and there were lots of them that year — made me realize how out of place I felt in high school after my son was born. I graduated last June, thank goodness, and have been working as a clerk in a local toy store ever since. Still, I can’t ignore the fact that my life is really weird compared with the lives of most kids my age.

Everything changed for me in tenth grade, the night of the school play. I was 15. This guy and I were just friends, but that night, he asked me to go for a walk with him. He grabbed my hand, and we started heading to the stadium. He kept stopping to kiss me and tell me how pretty I was. I was nervous, but I was also flattered. I had been feeling so self-conscious about my looks. (I know — it’s lame.)

Anyway, one thing led to another . . .

My mom and I are very close, so the following week, I told her about what had happened. I couldn’t keep it a secret — I was so scared I was pregnant. I just had this feeling that something was going on inside me. She said we’d just wait and see what happened.

A few weeks later, I took a home pregnancy test, and it showed a very faint pink line. I yelled for my mom, and later that day, we were at the doctor’s office. The doctor did a blood test, then came back, lowered his glasses and said, “Positive,” in a stern voice.

My mom and I just looked at each other — nervous and numb. I could tell my mother was disappointed, but she wasn’t mad. I think that’s because she had my older brother when she was only 17, and he turned out great. Anyway, after the shock wore off, both of us felt a little nervous but excited. We never even considered an abortion; my mom and I are both pro-life. And adoption was out of the question; I couldn’t imagine giving my baby away.

From the start, I wanted to be a good mom and decided to teach myself everything I could about pregnancy and child rearing. I looked at a bunch of pregnancy Websites and learned all about how babies develop. I read lots of books, took my prenatal vitamins, and went to all my checkups. I tried to eat well, although I also used being pregnant as an excuse to treat myself to lots of fast food. After all, I was eating for two!

My pregnancy was considered high risk because I was only 15, but it turned out to be pretty easy. Except for the birth part. Whoa! That really hurt! After 19 hours of labor, though, Tyler Dominic Rush was finally born. He had a full head of black hair and gorgeous blue eyes. He was beautiful, healthy, and he was mine.

I couldn’t wait to leave the hospital, but the second we got home, I froze. It was like, “Oh, no! I have a baby! What do I do now?” I never felt more like a little kid. With lots of help from my mom, though, I gradually figured out how to hold him, feed him, and bathe him. We set up a beautiful bedroom for him — decorated with a Winnie-the-Pooh theme — but he slept with me every night for the first five months.

My relationship with the father pretty much ended when I told him I was going to have the baby. He never really came around to the idea of being a dad. He’s stayed out of the picture, and since we aren’t really on good terms, I think it’s best that way. I don’t know what will happen in the future. Right now, I don’t want to think about it.

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I Cheated on My DYING Fiancé! Is He the Dad?

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